Oh my goodness, your a housewife too?! But, I'm sure you are a great one at it as well. Oh bless you, I do feel very young....I think the 40's of today are the new 20's....and, I do feel more like a mid 20 yr old! Here is the website if you are interested.....www.abortionchangesyou.com

I do hope you are able to check it out, let me know if you need anything.....

By the way, how many hours difference is there between Los Angeles and where you are at?

Haha yeap I am and I love my job
Definatly, 40s are still the 20s in my opinion.
Thankyou for that website I will go check it out.
Well it is 8.00am thursday here now...Hmmm maybe 16 hours or so?
Might have to do a google on that one!

Well, it is 9:40p.m. Wednesday night here, I'm ready to go to sleep. Lots of flu/colds going around, I've had a hacking cough, so I know that is making me tired! YES, try to go to that website.....because I've been where you are at, I hate for you to go where I've been. Catch things now, even if you really do think that you are fine. Don't hide it, and be true to yourself.

Had my abortion when i was 16 and i am now 25

I had mine when I was 25 and I'm now 41

My bsby would have been 24 years old this past June if I had not ended her life in Nov of '83.

My baby wouldn've been 16, but, I don't even remember what month my abortion was in...I was WAY TO BRAINWASHED to even know what was going on....

10 months ago

it was the saddest day of my life....i've missed her ever since ='(

I know it was the saddest, and it would be the saddest day. I know for me it was the saddest, although I will say that I hardly even remember the day it happened for me because not only was I "forced" into having it because my mom made the appointment, and drove me, BUT, I was SO brainwashed by the guy who did it to me. I have looked back on it off & on for 17 yrs, and because I've been able to deal with it; counseling, and talking about it, I feel better, but, it isn't easy. I am now doing something about it for myself, I'm wanting to reach out to all of you girls who have/are going through it to be there for you all. I'm here to talk, give advice, listen to, etc.......

thank you so much for your kind words healed i really apprecite it :')

i'm so sorry for your lose..it must've been really hard on you too. to an extent i was forced by my ex-bf at the time to also go thru with the procedure so i know exactly how it feels to be put in that situation. we felt that there was no other choice....

i'm finding it quite difficult at the moment to cope as this was the time last year that i found out i was pregnant....it's 3am in the morning here in australia and i this site has really been my 'safe haven' recently during these sleepless nights....i don't know how i'd be able to cope without this site, god bless all of you for bringing hope and healing to all of us women who are so deeply hurting. i know that you will be blessed immensely =)

i hope that one day i too can reach out to the women who are hurting.....once again thank you, it means so much to me that im able to communicate with other's who know my pain without being judged x

I'm so glad that you were able to find "Safe Haven".....I love being able to reach out to other girls who have or are going through the samething I went through. I guess for me, even though it was over 17 yrs ago or so, first of all, the pain NEVER goes away, but, at the sametime it is SO important to search out people websites; Safe Haven, or wherever you might know of somebody to get that support from.

I know for me just after I was forced in having my abortion, I was SO lost! I was brainwashed, I never got the counseling that I shouldn've had.....at the time, my mom didn't, and still doesn't really believe in all that. I just went on with my life with a "band aid" on, even when I first got married, my mom told me NOT to tell my husband......well, a couple of years later, I did, and not only was a relief that I did, but, he supported me 100%! To this day my mom doesn't talk about it, my dad knows now after reading a letter to him, then he asked my mom if she knew after her telling me he shouldn't know because it'd hurt him. Well, I'm apart of a family that has kept secrets, but, I don't like secrets.

So, with my past, this is why I'm wanting to be out there helping other girls; talking to them, listening to them, giving loving advice when they are searching out for it, and if they are needing any direction, help, or whatever, I'd be happy to search out and find out where they can get the info that they are looking for.

You are a long way from Los Angeles, WOW ~ Australia....beautiful area, but, I've understood that the info on abortion is extremely limited there?! So listen, if you ever need any help, want to talk, or just whatever, I'm here! In fact, let me give you my personal email address if you would like to email me, I check email ALL the time!

God bless you....Karin ~ jkstarbucks@charter.net

thank you so much karin i really appreciate your kindness

ill definitely be in touch soon.

take care and god bless x

My abortion was 33 years ago. I've been through counseling, Project Rachel, read all the books. I know that I am forgiven. However, it is November. My son was conceived in November 1975. Some Novembers I don't think about it much. This November it's all I can think of. My son, Jesse would be 32 years old now. I am a very young looking 51. Most people think I'm in my late 30's. I never had any biological children, but I do have 3 adoring stepsons. I can't help but think of who my son might have been - gosh, I might have even been a grandmother by now. I could have NEVER imagined that what I did at 18 would touch me this deeply so many years later. I was just scared and focused on getting relief from the fear and shame. In honor of what would have been my son's 33rd year - the same number of years Jesus walked the earth - I hope to anonymously do things for other children who are in "less than fortunate" situations here and abroad. How often have I wished I could turn back the clock . . .

My abortion was 17 yrs give or take ago. I've done the same thing with counseling....glad I'm doing it, but, it take SO long. I went through Rachel's Vineyard Retreat, and don't know what I would've done without it - the most AMAZING experience of my life! I get the sameway at times, if I had had my baby, what would he be like today, and where would I be. I've been married for 10 yrs, and if I had had my baby, I know I would be "stuck" with the "guy" who got me pregnant.....what a terrible thought! I think we all wish we could turn back the clock on things in life, BUT, it is a learning experience. If you don't mind me asking, where are you from?

God Bless You!

One in 1976 and one in 1978

Five weeks ago. I feel like I've been hit by a Mac truck today...can't stop crying. Anyone out there today, help.

((((artmuse))))

We are glad you have found Safehaven and hope that you begin to find comfort here, first, in knowing you are not alone.  We understand your pain and sorrow here and have time to hear you out.  Please continue to post up and join us in chat if you are able.

 

I am so sorry for your loss.

Nancy

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You do not have to struggle through this alone. Please feel free to email me

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my abortion was 6 motnhs ago .... and im still missing my lttle angle.....hope one day youh come back to me , sorry x

I too was amazed at how many 20+ years ago responses there are. I had my abortion in 1984 when I was 28. I broke up with the father soon after (my first love, who I lost my virginity to when I was 15). In 1985 I met and eventually married a man who turned out to be a heroin addict and was physically and emotionally abusive to me. I felt I did not deserve happiness because of what I'd done so I stayed with him even after we'd divorced in 1997. I was discussing the weight of guilt for my choice and inability to forgive myself with my doctor and he said "Who do you think is smarter - you or God?". It was as if a light came on - I AM forgiven! A chain of events began. I told my ex-husband he had to leave & through prayer and the help of my friends, he left. The father of my child in Heaven had a tragedy occur in his family - his daughter was driving a car that was in an accident that killed her and her brother's mother. I sent him a sympathy card and when he wrote back I found out he'd been trying to find me for years. We met & began a relationship in August of 2008. He has turned into the most wonderful man who treats me like a queen and I know it was because he became a father and took responsibility for the children he had with 2 women (ages 16, 18, & 20). A BIG surprise to me was that he did not recall he'd gotten me pregnant and I'd had an abortion. He was a drinker back then and apparently blocked it out. I told him he has a son in Heaven, Jesse Lee born Feb. 24, 1985. He told me how sorry he was about it and how I'd suffered by punishing myself. Now the devil has 'given' me a problem I had not anticipated and I am working on it through Bible reading and prayer. I know with God I will get through it. The issue is: Being around his children is so hard, it is as if a shadow child is there, and some days it really gets to me, so much so that I'd considered leaving him, but how can I leave the man I love because the devil is attacking me? I told my love how I feel and I know he is watching me to see how I handle it. He is not a Christian (yet!), but notices how I read the Bible and Christian books, how I act, asks me great questions about the Lord, and encourages me to talk to his kids about the Lord. I know the devil is trying to attack me as he does not want anyone to come to know Jesus and I am a 'thorn in his side'. Thank-you for listening and for being there for women and men who have been hurt by abortion. God forgives all our sins and it always with us.