Im 26 yrs old & about 7 wks pregnant. I already have a 3 yr old daughter & broke up with her dad when she was almost 2. When my daughter was 8 months old i had my first & what i thought would be my last abortion. I made that choice because my daughter was still so young & my partner at the time & myself were having problems. He use to abuse me. Im now in a relationship of only a year & pregnant. I thought this was what i wanted but since finding out ive been scared & confused. Hes not the guy i thought he was & we are fighting constantly. Im scared that i will end up being a single mum of 2 children with 2 different dads. Financially i also cannot afford another child either! Ive booked the abortion which will be in 5 days. I promised myself after the first time that i would never get another abortion but im to scared to have another child in fear of ending up a single mum of 2 with no life & no money! I need some advice...am i doing the right thing?

Missa, I am so sorry that I didn't see your post earlier!  I know it has been several days since you have posted and your appointment date has come and gone.  If you are still visiting our site, I want you to know that I have lifted you up in my prayers tonight and hope that you will always feel welcome here, regardless of the choice you made. 

If you kept your appointment and did have the abortion, please know that if you need to talk, we are here.  If you made the choice to cancel your appointment, please also know that we can help you find resources that can help you too. 

((((Missa)))),
Carla

Thank  u very much 4 your reply. I kept my appointment for the terminationas planned. When i went there i was surprisingly calm, until it came time to go into theatre. I went in the cold room & laid on the bed, by this stage my calmness turned had into the total opposite, i was petrified. The anestheisist then came in & went to strap my arm to get ready to put the needle in. Before he could do it I just jumped up & said I couldnt do it! I was in tears & very confused but they were very kind & understanding. They gave me a few moments to decide & I fortunately decided against the termination!!! Im now almost 10 wks pregnant & im very happy & excited about having my baby. Things are still not great with my partner but we have decided to stay together & do what we can to make our relationship work. We are both excited about the birth of our baby, which will be on the 24th of april 2009! Things will be financially tough but I still feel I have made the right decision in keeping my baby!

Missa,

    Thank you for choosing life for your child. There is plenty of assistance out there. Some of the resources are at your finger tips on the World Wide Web. Please do not feel guilty when you ask for help, everybody at one time in their life may need help. At times in my life I needed food stamps and I was working two jobs. I did not get much child support so I had to have some help. I now have six grandbabies and my children now understand how difficult it was for me to meet all their needs. Please share the birth of your child with us. I will be keeping you and your family in my prayers.



Cyber hug,
Patty