I wanted to post because I'm feeling quite angry and frustrated...
The first time I was faced with an unwanted pregnancy was this past december, when I was not using female birth control, however I did take the plan B pill if I felt there was a risk of pregnancy... My partner of five years and I found out the terrible news and agreed an abortion would be best... he was fantastic through the whole procedure and after, and it brought us closer together... after that experience I went back on the BC I had used prior to stopping, the evra patch.. I never had any pregnany scares when on it in the past five years, and unfortunatly, I have discovered that regardless of my vigilant use of the Evra patch, and Plan B for back up sometimes, I have become pregnant again... with the same partner....

I feel so stupid, and I'm planning another abortion as a baby is not in my future or my partners at this time. I just can't believe it happened AGAIN, while I was using protection....

I just wanted to vent...

thanks

Hi angiekins,
If you read the fine print on any form of contraceptive you will see that none is 100% effective (excluding permanent, surgical options). I know you, no doubt, understand that, but I wanted to say it in response to you saying you feel stupid. Conception is the intended consequence of sexual relations so all attempts at prevention do not work. Such it is with us humans. So please set aside feeling stupid.
Since you have worked hard at preventing pregnancy with this partner and yet it has occured TWICE, perhaps it is worth giving some thought this being a good thing and a baby maybe your future right now. The thing about postponing having a baby is that there are no guarantees in life. I personally know women who have chosen abortion because "it was not the right time" and have, regrettably (their feelings) gone on to a life of never again having the opportunity. I encourage you to give yourself (and your partner) some more time and consideration over this irrevocable decision. We like to think we can plan and map out the future and it will arrive as we planned. Truly we do not control the future. Ask the people in Haiti whose lives were completely ravaged in less than a minute. Now they have to rethink everything. I am not suggesting an actual earthquake will occur in your locale. Things that seem like earthquake happen in our lives and distrupt our plans, and we have to rethink. Pregnancy and having a baby can seem like an earthquake because our plans are disrupted. You can rethink your plans, consider all your options, none are easy, all have lifetime consequences. Which one wil please you the most next year, five years from now, 25 years from now?