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reaching out
Last Post 02 Jul 2011 03:12 AM by LittleOne. 1 Replies.
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29 Jun 2011 04:28 AM QuoteQuote ReplyReply  
so after finding this site, it has made me think constantly of what i did. i can talk to my fiancee about my ab but he just doesnt understand. it was about 8 yrs ago and he just doesnt get why im still holding on and why it stills makes me cry whenever i even begin to think of it. so i have been trying to reach out to my ex~bf, father of the baby, but he just wont respond. im trying to find just some closure, i feel like he can help me thru this. he just wont talk to me, i took all my anger out on him after the ab, which is why he eventually left me, we split up very badly, which in turn has not helped with my recovery. i just cant take the guilt anymore, i need some sort of forgivness, i feel like my soul was taken from me that day and so was my heart. im not sure how much more i can take, i feel alone and empty, i hide my feelings well so noone really knows whats going on, im scared to tell anyone they just wont understand. i hate myself, im a murderer and feel like god will never forgive me, which means ill never be able to see my baby even after life, its still more of a punishment which i know i deserve. i just wish i could have some forgiveness or closure
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02 Jul 2011 03:12 AM QuoteQuote ReplyReply  
I was where you were back in 2000. Post Abortion Stress Syndrome (PASS) is awful...Even worse, the enemy's assaults on our hearts & minds is horrendous...but there IS hope.. ;-)

Here are some resources to help in this:

Post Abortion Stress Syndrome (PASS)

The Catholic Church holds Rachel's Vineyard Post Abortion retreats for men & women suffering from post-abortion trauma. They do hold interdenominational retreats (Check for locations & times). They are for a fee, but if there is difficulty w/ funds, I think they can help in that as well:

By Location

By Date

Counseling is also available. Many pregnancy resource centers offer post-abortive support groups (Forgiven & Set Free comes to mind), & many churches are also filling the need for post-abortive people in need of help. Check w/ your local churches/pastors/priests. A good counselor can help in the healing process. It is imperative to find one who will not discount your abortion experience.

Ultimately in the end, it is God who brings healing in our lives from this trauma. May Jehovah-Rapha (God My Healer) bring healing to you over this pain. He can do it. He did for me. God be with you, hun...You are not alone, hun...


Psalm 30
A psalm. A song. For the dedication of the temple.[a] Of David.
1 I will exalt you, O LORD,
for you lifted me out of the depths
and did not let my enemies gloat over me.
2 O LORD my God, I called to you for help
and you healed me.

Psalm 32
Of David. A maskil.[a]
1 Blessed is he
whose transgressions are forgiven,
whose sins are covered.
2 Blessed is the man
whose sin the LORD does not count against him
and in whose spirit is no deceit.

3 When I kept silent,
my bones wasted away
through my groaning all day long.
4 For day and night
your hand was heavy upon me;
my strength was sapped
as in the heat of summer.

5 Then I acknowledged my sin to you
and did not cover up my iniquity.
I said, “I will confess
my transgressions to the LORD”—
and you forgave
the guilt of my sin.

6 Therefore let everyone who is godly pray to you
while you may be found;
surely when the mighty waters rise,
they will not reach him.
7 You are my hiding place;
you will protect me from trouble
and surround me with songs of deliverance.

8 I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go;
I will counsel you and watch over you.
9 Do not be like the horse or the mule,
which have no understanding
but must be controlled by bit and bridle
or they will not come to you.
10 Many are the woes of the wicked,
but the LORD’s unfailing love
surrounds the man who trusts in him.

11 Rejoice in the LORD and be glad, you righteous;
sing, all you who are upright in heart!

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