i'm 17 and going to have an abortion..
i;m scared but I feel it is the best decision for me...
can anyone tell me how they felt after it was over and how they feel now?
i would just like to know what to expect..

-Thanks

I had one in June 2009. It was a little scary to go in there but it was over quickly and then I felt relieved. I am sort of wondering when I am going to feel sad, but so far I don't. Maybe when I have children someday. My boyfriend and I broke up in december and I realized that he was pretty creepy so I am glad I don't have a baby with him. I was 16 and now I am 17 but the one big difference is I never ever would consider having sex without birth control now.

did your family support your decision?

Hi Nikki

I was 17 also when I found out I was pregnant. I hid my pregnancy from my mother and family for four and half months. I just had another two more weeks to go before legally you couldn't have an abortion. The father of the baby was my exboyfriend that I had dated for two years previously but still continued to see unknown to the public or my family. On my 18th birthday, he came to me and told me, he knew about the baby and that I had to tell my mother before he went to her. When I told my mother, her instant reaction was that I was to get an abortion. I was shocked and felt betrayed by her, since she had taught me about God and his views on life. I wanted my baby very much and was making plans with a friend of mine to move away till the baby was born to protect him. Within the week, I was cut off of all contact with friends and phone calls. I was taken to a hospital and labour was induced. All the time I went thru labour, I knew what I was doing was wrong. I delivered a little boy and the picture of him lying between my legs has haunted me for 35 years. This August 6th will be 35 years that my son died by my own hands. It has taken the love of Christ to heal where I thought I could never be healed. Thru God's movement in my life, I was able to finally speak to my ex, after 34 years and tell him that the baby that was aborted was his and not his best friend's,which someone had told him years ago. I could get forgiveness from him and was able to walk into my healing. We were able to close a lot of doors on our past thru finally being able to talk about that time in our lives that I just disappeared on him and came back totally broken and unable to be repaired.He had asked me to marry him so we could raise the baby. He was coming for me on the Sunday but the Friday before my mother had my sister drive me to the hospital and my life took a turn for the worse. Unknown to him or anyone else.

I know at 17 you are scared and having a baby is a huge responsibilty for you and your family. I just want you to know that what ever you decide today will ultimately affect your life forever. If you know Jesuse Christ as your personal saviour, seek his wisdom and guidance thru this confusing time. Thru Christ there is always a way where we can not see one. This decision can not be a fast decision for you, two or more lives are at stake here, choose wisely. There is a God bigger than your circumstances that loves you with an everlasting love that isn't here one day and gone the next, it is a forever forgiving love. Talk to a born again spirit lead Christian and have them pray for you. Seek someone you trust for wisdom to speak with you and help you during this time of decision. I pray you will have peace and find your answers for both you and your baby.

If you have or do choose to have your abortion, seek good couselling immediately. I spent years tormented and pretty much screwed up my life for many years because of the pain I had inside. I am now just finding a higher level of healing for myself and know one day I will see my little son, Jed in heaven. Trust in the Lord, he cares for you. I hope everything works out for you. Shades of Blue.

AS WITH ANY CHOICES THERE ARE CONSEQUENCES.DO WHAT YOU FEEL IS BEST FOR YOU BECAUSE YOU CAN'T CHANGE IT ONCE ITS DONE.PRAY ABOUT IT AND GOD WILL CARRY YOU WHETHER YOU HAVE THE ABORTION OR NOT.FORGIVE AND LET BE