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5 years on and now can't cope...
Last Post 26 Jun 2011 10:46 PM by stefannie. 4 Replies.
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03 Feb 2010 01:58 PM QuoteQuote ReplyReply  
Hi all...
I'm in the uk, i had an abortion 5 years ago this coming april. I dont know why but suddenly now i feel i can't cope, i feel like i need to have a baby, but know i dont want one as i vowed never to have another after aborting my baby, i cry for no reason.. i dont know what is happening to me and i dont know who to talk to, my husband is great but i need a bit more than a cuddle and being told not to cry. can anyone help me please? x

05 Feb 2010 03:46 AM EditEdit QuoteQuote ReplyReply  
Dear Kel29........I hope by now you have had time to read the other posts on this website. In the US, almost 1 million women abort their babies every year. I don't know what the figures are for the UK. Some people in the US think abortion is a woman's decision...that she has the right to decide what is right for HER body. That is why it is legal. What they don't think about is what it does to the woman for many years after. That part is never talked about.

The reason this is bothering you so much is because you have a conscience. God put in each one of our hearts that little thing that tells us right from wrong. Your choice was wrong. You know that now. But you were deceived by the worlds standards and lies about abortion. The only way out of this for you is to turn to your creator and tell HIM you are sorry. Ask for forgiveness...accept HIS forgiveness.....and then start working on Forgiving yourself. That will be the hardest part. God has already pardoned you. He did that before you were born. He sent his Son, Jesus to be the once and for all sacrifice and payment for ALL of your sins. All you have to do is accept that. God gave you FREE WILL. He lets you decide. Are you Christian? Catholic? You can't do this on your own. Let the one who created us all help you to help others. Your testimony could save many other babies......and many mother's from the pain you are suffering. I want to help you. Can you accept my help? If you read the other posts, you will see why I am doing this.
I love women who have aborted their babies. I feel their pain because I watched my own mother suffer all of my life because of an abortion she had.

09 Feb 2010 01:45 PM EditEdit QuoteQuote ReplyReply  
It was 4 years ago today that I had my abortion. I understand how you are feeling. I thought that this far along the line i might have come to terms with the fact that I can't change the decision i have made. I know that I need counselling to come to terms with my emotions but the thought of it is quite scary and in some ways i feel my pain is a suitable punishment for what i did. Be honest with your husband and talk about your feelings, bottling things inside is never productive. I wish i could take away your hurt and make you feel better. I'm sorry if my rambllings are not very helpful but i wanted to reassure you that you are not alone, or strange and that what you are feeling is very normal.

You are in my thoughts


17 Dec 2010 10:36 PM EditEdit QuoteQuote ReplyReply  
I feel the same way
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26 Jun 2011 10:46 PM QuoteQuote ReplyReply  
mine is going on 9 yrs, i still havent moved on. im thankful to see that im not the only one still in mourning over my ab. i have no one to talk to, noone understands why im still holding onto my pain. its very hard to forgive ourselves for our actions, but hopefully one day soon that day will come. i have a hard time looking in the mirror somedays, getting out of bed, but then i remind myself i have to keep going for my baby. i made the mistake of getting rid of it, its my responsibility to live my life how i "wanted" it to be. if i would have known my pain would never disappear i wouldnt have listened to my boyfriend or family and followed thru with what i wanted, my child. remember its looking down on u, waiting for the day when we finally meet again and we can show them the love we have carried all these yrs. ill pray for u to find some sort of acceptance cuz i know i wish someone would do the same for me

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