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nikki

Posts:1

06/21/2008 9:17 PM
Hello I'm Nikki, and i have a very big problem. I'm 17 and still have one more year in high school. I'm also almost 3 months pregnant. I live with my aunt due to a big argument with my mom. Neither know yet. My boy friend who is also 17 doesn't want to have the baby because he feel we can't graduate high and be parents too. His parents said that they would pay for an abortion, i thought i was ok with it, but i don't want to do it. I'm too scared to tell my aunt or mom i'm pregnant and scared to tell my bofriend i want to keep the baby. My boyfriend made it clear that if i keep the baby he wants nothing to do with it. I don't know if at 17 i can raise a baby on my own. I feel like i'm being pulled in so many direction, i don't kmow what to do and am very scared.

Jessie

Posts:21

06/21/2008 10:43 PM
Hi Nikki, first of all, you are having very normal reactions to all you are going through. Please remember that you, not your boyfriend, are the one who will have to deal with this and the consequences of your decision for the rest of your life. It's hard to accept--we want things to go back the way they were, but they can't. There is help and support for you. Please go to www.optionline.org and find a pregnancy care/resource center in your area. The people there I can assure you are caring and supportive, not judgemental. They will give you all the info on your options so you can make a fully-informed decision. It's only natural that you feel scared. Realize you are not alone and help is available, OK? Decisions made in panic are rarely good decisions. I had an ab when I was in my 20's and I will regret it the rest of my life. I made the decision in panic mode. Are you familiar with fetal development? Your baby is now a full human being. He or she has everything--just needs to grow. He or she has a beating heart, a brain with millions of brain cells developing right now, arms, legs, hands, feet, can move, etc. It won't be easy, but you can do it! Please don't do something you will regret forever. Your b/f is trying to pressure you--realize that he may or may not stay in your life even if you abort your child. How would you feel if you aborted and he left you anyway? Sadly, that's the norm. I don't want to say anything to hurt you, sweetie. But you are a mom now and always will be, no matter what you decide. You may want to visit the chat room (although I'm not sure anyone is there right now)--there is support there also. I am praying for you! Please don't make a move until you talk with someone at a preg. ctr., OK? ((((((hugs))))))

Nancy

Posts:59

07/06/2008 12:32 AM
((((nikki)))) Check out this website www.pregnancycenters.org to find a pregnancy center near you to get some support if you have not already done so. The workers in these centers can help you with information and assistance to work out your situation.

You shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free. -Jesus

BaByJ

Posts:9

09/08/2008 4:02 PM
Just bumping this thread to see how your doing? No matter what is going on , people are here for you!

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Posts:14

10/09/2008 9:44 PM
Hey hun.. I just want to say..dont worry about what your boyfriend says. This is YOUR baby too and it is YOUR body. Go with your gut instinct. If you feel like you are unable to raise bubz then abortion is always an option. Do what you know would be best for yourself,,not others. and there are plenty of people to help you here!

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