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kerry

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11/18/2008 9:34 AM
Hi All, I'm new to this so not quite sure what to write. I'm an adult woman, who is extremely independent and never relies on anyone due to past experiences. Therefore, if i have a problem, i keep it to myself, as i have done since discovering that i was pregnant last week. My life has been in a bad place really for the last year, after splitting up with a long term partner i found myself homeless and having to return to my childhood home, which for me was very hard. Since then I had noticed a rapid change in my happiness and after finding some comfort in the arms of a workmate later discovered that i was pregnant. The father of my baby is a married man (please dont preach - i know it was wrong). Having discovered that i was pregnant last week I have found the courage to tell the father although with his situation and mine - i know that it would be wrong to bring a baby into the world. This is my 1st pregnancy and I can honestly say that I have never thought i'd be one of those that would find myself in this situation. Since seeing the doctor I have found the whole process of arranging an abortion very fast. As I am under 9 weeks I am able to take the medical abortion and today have taken the 1st tablet. I go back tomorrow for the final 4 which will start a miscarriage. I have not told any other person and am finding the whole thing incredibly difficult. Maybe it's my hormones..........i really dont know. I'm not the sort of person that shows my feelings yet all i've done since discovering that i was pregnant is cry. I feel awful for what i am doing but know deep down this is the right decision, although that doesn't make it any easier. No one knows what i am doing, i am having to make excuses to leave the room when i feel teary. The thought of being home alone having a miscarriage is frightening and one i need support with but dont feel able to turn to anyone. I find myself thinking 'what if', however it's too late now............what i suppose i want to know is whether the feelings of hate that i have towards myself over this will ever go away, will this get any easier?

Nancy

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11/19/2008 11:06 AM
Hi Kerry, It is already tomorrow from your post so I can only imagine your day today. My abortion was surgical, but I have known others who have had a medical abortion. Know that you will be on my mind and my heart today and for as long as God brings you to my mind. Sometimes in the midst of the emotional turmoil it can be a challenge to take care of yourself physically. Please do make that a priority, follow the medical instructions and keep any followup appointments. When you get yourself together tomorrow or in the next day or so, I invite you to read the information on the "Abortion Recovery" link on the sidebar. There is information about Post Abortion Syndrome, it will help you to know that many others experience similiar symptoms. There will be a grieving experience, going through the stages of grief. To answer your question, every woman's healing journey is as unique as she is so one cannot predict the course of the journey. Many of us who have walked this journey are willing and able to be here for you and walk with you. ((((kerry)))) May God keep you in his grace and mercy, Nancy

You shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free. -Jesus

Patty

Posts:49

11/20/2008 8:25 AM
Kerry, Welcome to Safe Haven. As Nancy has said, read about the Abortion Recovery. We will be here and help you thru the healing journey. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. When ever you feel lonely stop in and chat with the Ladies. Patty

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