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JuneBug

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06/24/2008 4:03 PM
hi to everyone. I just joined this site because I need someone to talk to about what I'm going through and there is no one. I became pregnant and had an abortion almost a year and a half ago. I never really was one of those people who had strong feelings about abortion either way because I never thought it would affect me. When I found out I was pregnant I was happy... even though it was a bad time and I wasn't married, i still was so happy and amazed at the fact I was carrying a little baby. However, my fiance was really upset. At first he didn't believe me and then he started saying how his life was going to be ruined if his parents found out... I told him that I would have the baby and give it up for adoption...his parents wouldn't ever have to know. He laughed really meanly and said there is no way we could keep that a secret. I wish I wouldn't have listened to him, but I was so weak I believed him and made an appointment to have an abortion. I cancelled the appointment, I still didn't feel right about it, but then he called and rescheduled and that time I went through with it. To this day i carry a lot of anger inside towards my fiance for how he acted. I try to talk to him about it now, and he just says "Well I told you it was up to you." yeah right...he would say "my life will be ruined and I will be disowned...but it's up to you." that's not exactly supportive. I knwo I have a problem. I'm obsessed with pregnancy now and I want to get pregnant again, but I know I shouldn't. After my abortion I had an IUD put in so that I would never have to face this situation again...but one day I started crying so hard I actually tried to look up how to remove the IUD because I wanted to be pregnant again and do the right thing this time. I know what I did was wrong and I can never forgive myself. I know that even if I do have another child someday, it will never replace the one that I killed and I will never forget what I've done. I genuinely believe that I deserve to go to hell for what I did and I deserve every bit of pain I have. And deep down, I kind of hate my fiance too, because if it weren't for him and for me being weak, I know I would have kept the pregnancy and had a 1 year old now.

Jessie

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06/25/2008 11:53 PM
dear June Bug, you are not alone. So many women have gone through abortion b/c of their boyfriends or husbands or fiances' insistence--and many times after they do what the man wants, the man leaves them anyway...i am so sorry for all you've gone through. You need to let your feelings out to someone...a good start would be to visit www.optionline.org and find a preg. resource center near you. Please call and you will be met with caring and support. They can tell you who to talk to and what to do. They have been such a huge help to me personally. If you were to get pregnant again with this man, what would prevent the same reaction from him? This is none of my business, of course, but it sounds as if you really need to evaluate this relationship. Somewhere there is someone who will love you for yourself and will not be selfish as this man is. God loves you and God forgives. It's hard to stop blaming ourselves and hating ourselves, but He desires our complete healing and He alone can do that for us. You do not deserve to hurt, you did what you thought was the best thing. No you will not forget, but forgiveness can be yours and you can be free again. You can also come here to the chat room, esp. in the evenings and there is a lot of support there as well. Praying for you. ((((((hugs))))))

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